Men like naughty children... Why they cheating?

Probably, nowadays only the most naive believe in faithfulness of their beloved till their dying day. Even teenagers know that men cannot live without adventures away from home. But when sooner or later you find out about unfaithfulness of your darling, this knowledge cannot console you. On the contrary, like a red-hot needle in your brain, the only question tortures you: why?

Men are like naughty children, they will deny the fact till the end and claim that they are as clear as a dew drop. If you catch him red-handed (and the facts must be irrefutable), you’ll see another series called “I have no idea how it could happen”.

And you’ll hear dozens of excuses. The most common is –I was drunk, I wasn’t aware of what I was doing. Infidelity caused by alcohol is a myth very common in our life. But I guess men invented it. They drink to pluck up the courage and not vise versa…

“But it was only once” is even more ridiculous excuse. Does it mean that infidelity occurred once can’t be called infidelity at all? And one very nice man tried to convince his wife that to sleep with other women is his professional duty. Being a successful businessman he had to do it according to his status.

We can enumerate all possible excuses and explanations, but we can say for sure: there is  absolutely no point in trying to find out the reasons. As men sincerely believe that we need not truth but the opportunity to make a row and get the guarantees that it will not happen again. And they give us such an opportunity.

In order to understand what makes men “commit the crime” we should turn to the knowledge of psychologists   and psychiatrists. For the last century it’s been accumulated in good quantity.

And the first reason you’ll hear sounds simple: because he is a man. And love has got nothing to do with it.  Your partner can have the most gentle feelings towards you, adore your children, make much of your mother, and even in this case to have an affair away from home from time to time.

And they blame natural selection, men’s sex hormones that never leave in peace a poor heart. Sometimes a passing glance of a sexy dog  is enough, and the mechanism that has functioned for thousands of years pushes a male creature to bring forth, everywhere, it will exterminate his loyalty. There is nothing left but to forgive or take revenge…

There are even risk areas, i.e. places where men’s loyalty is tested. Resorts take the first place. It looks like the stronger sex experiences temporary amnesia under the rays of a southern sun. They completely forget about their wives left home and even their mistresses whom they swore to divorce with the mentioned above. What can you do if the atmosphere disposes to it: half-naked beauties at the seaside seem easy-riders.

And here not only hormones play their malicious role but a heady feeling of freedom as well. As a man in marriage tries to guard and maintain his independence (at least in some spheres) from women’s  infringement. By the way, one of the reasons for unfaithfulness can be your desire to bring up your partner. Such a desire cannot be approved by any man. And, besides, before you liked and took him as he was.        

And on the seaside, on the business trip a man gets what he has always desired,  even though not for long. There is no need to lie, to justify yourself, watch the time, and the traces of lipstick on your shirt. That’s what is called happiness.

Not less dangerous are so called stag parties. Especially if they are held on special occasions – somebody’s marriage, for example. By the way, if your beloved is the fiancé it doesn’t reduce the risk. It’s another myth that rituals are popular only among women. Boys also like them, believe it. That’s why farewell to their bachelor life will be on the highest level possible, i.e. with girls.

Resort affairs, business trips, stag parties are trifles, there is nothing extraordinary in that. More serious things can happen. I have a friend that was twice married to bisexuals. Where did she find them in such quantities? It’s difficult  to say. The most striking thing is that she didn’t know the single thing about their exotic sexual preferences.

But psychologists say that you can differentiate them from others.  As a rule, their sexual experiments are endless and the yearning for a new “deed” doesn’t disappear even in many years of marriage. If their partner gets tired of it, they find the entertainment away from home and very often with a man. Logic is simple- sex with a man can hardly be considered infidelity…

And the most difficult case is constant drawing a parallel with  a mother. A lot of men remain children till getting old and the aim of their lives is to find a caring mother, not a devoted friend. Until they find such  a woman they will not calm down. It means they will test many candidates. Even if the position is occupied.

However, sometimes we provoke unfaithfulness of our better half. For long years of conjugal life, feelings calm  down, sexual menu becomes monotonous, and very often women stop paying enough attention to their appearance. But a man continues to long for rush at least on holidays, and you can’t convince them that happiness means peace. That’s when he  starts looking around.     

In this case it’s better to strain yourself , to smarten yourself up, to buy erotic lingerie and to revive a bit of the past. But it’s important not to overdo it. Because your beloved may think that you dropped him out. And then he will run wild.

Among other things, according to psychologists, diffidence is seemingly the most common reason for  infidelity. So at least once a week remind your friend that he is the only one, who can give you heavenly pleasure, even if it’s not so.